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How can I help my son or daughter if they are having a very difficult time at school to prevent them from having suicidal thoughts?

Francisco Villar Cabeza
Dr. Francisco Villar Cabeza
Clinical Psychologist. Coordinator of the Care Program for Suicidal Behaviours in Minors
Hospital Sant Joan de Déu Barcelona

The first step is to acknowledge the distress , validate it, inform the teaching staff of the student's concerns, and involve them in their recovery so that they, in turn, can involve their classmates. We need to identify the source of the distress as much as possible, whether it stems from excessive demands, academic difficulties, or problems with relationships with classmates.

Let us remember that, at 12 or 13 years old, many fronts open up: fitting in with others, fears of rejection, shame, not only that of studies, and that many of them affect the latter.

Make sure they understand that you are going to help them because, for you, their anxieties are important and there is nothing to be ashamed of, that there is no way they can let us down, that we love them with good grades and with bad grades, with fears and without them.

If we can reduce their pain and discomfort by doing this, we will have already prevented the risk of suicidal thoughts arising. Secondly, we must convey hope , that everything will be alright, and that they will have the necessary time to improve the situation once it has been identified.

At the same time, it's important to increase opportunities for social interaction and encourage them to belong to different groups, whether in sports, recreational activities, community centers, etc. Some children base their self-esteem on their performance in areas other than academics, and others rely on friends from their community's leisure center or sports club when they have conflicts with classmates or schoolmates.

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Francisco Villar Cabeza
Dr. Francisco Villar Cabeza
Clinical Psychologist. Coordinator of the Care Program for Suicidal Behaviours in Minors
Hospital Sant Joan de Déu Barcelona
Cecilia Borrás
Cecilia Borrás
Psychologist. Founding President
Después del Suicidio – Asociación de Supervivientes (DSAS)